Marriage Match Making is not as simple as Ashtakoota Milan or Checking if the partners are having the same Nakshatra. It is much beyond that as there are more than hundred cases that we have seen in the past where in partners have 25 plus points out of 36 and are currently divorced or have strained relationship.
We are highlighting a few pointers that can be considered for Match making.
Yes, lot more brains are needed and more iterations may be required to upgrade this match making process as no one can claim a good understanding of Vedic Astrology as this is an esoteric subject that could be beyond human comprehension at times.
Highlight a sample report with around 22 points considered.
These 22 points are:
- Sama Sapta Yoga: Is there a Karmic and Spiritual relationship from a past life?
- Match Of Mind And Emotions: How well can they get along together? (Emotionally, Materially and Spiritually)
- Balance Of Energy: Is one partner going to dominate the other in the relationship?
- Life Span: Are the life span more or less the same?
- Misfortunes In Life: Are they gonna balance out their good and bad times?
- Children: Is there a promise of progeny in the future?
- Dasha Sandhi: Are the partners Dasha’s changing in +/- 1 Year?
- Sexual Compatibility: Will there be good intimacy in the relationship?
- Divorce Or Infidelity: Is there a probability of one person cheating on the other?
- Intellectual Compatibility: Can they get along well intellectually?
- Nature, Mind, and Character: How well do the partners connect from a Physical, Emotionally, Materially and Spiritual perspective?
- Space in the relationship: Is there enough space for both the partners to blossom in the relationship?
- Development: The development could be in areas such as intellectual, spiritual, financial, emotional, status and career. Will there be development in these areas?
- Abuse in the relationship: Will there by physical or mental abuse in the relationship?
- Luck: Does the marriage lead to luck for both the partners?
- Identity and personality: Will the partners maintain their identity in the relationship?
- The feeling of being Burdened: Is one person gonna be a burden on the other?
- Match of Families: Will the families get along well and support the marriage?
- Social Status: Is there an increase in Social Status?
- Communication: Is there a smooth flow in communication?
- Obstructions in the relationship: Will there be a problem in the relationship – when they try to come together?
- Astha Koot Milan: Traditional Varna System
There are many ways to study the compatibility between the two charts of a couple. The traditional systems usually look at the birth Nakshatras and Rashi of the two charts. Some people compare the Moon Rashi and Nakshatras of the two charts and rely only on this method or matchmaking. This system is a basic one-dimensional matching system as it only factors the Moon placement. For a more detailed and multidimensional picture of compatibility, all the
factors of the two charts should be studied including each chart individually, the Varga charts, the two charts (synastry) and then the comparison of the Dasha periods of the couple. This multifaceted comparison of two charts will not only give an excellent picture of how they will interact as a couple but also serve as a guide to the potential problem areas in the future that
they should be aware of and work on.
Synastry is the study of two charts by superimposing two charts over each other to see which planets are superimposed on each other. For example: If a woman’s Moon is in Mesha and the Man’s Jupiter is also in Mesha we can say that there is a synastry between the woman’s Moon and the Man’s Jupiter.
There are many factors that one should study to ensure that a couple has the best possible probability to support a happy life together.
1. Match Of Mind And Emotions
The moon signifies the mind of a person. So naturally, we study the Moon to see how two people’s minds and emotional profiles match. A good astrologer first studies the condition of the Moon in a person’s chart to see if he/she has the potential for happiness. An unsteady and unhappy mind has a lower potential to make a happy and steady partner. The condition of a person’s Moon, Mercury and Lagna should be studied before even comparing horoscopes. Any
major issues at this point should be addressed before proceeding.
For a good emotional and mental match, an important factor is the placement of the Moons relative to each other. If the Moon sign placement is in a 6/8 relationship or a 2/12 relationship it will cause a mismatch between the mindset of the two people. A 5/9 relationship is the best and a 3/11 placement is fairly good.
One should see if there are any planets that are in synastry with the Moon. This shows the energy that is flowing to the mind and the emotions of the person from the other.
Excellent Match Of Emotions And Mind
When the two Moons are in the same Rashi it shows that they are very emotionally and mentally connected. They will understand each other and be very emotionally supportive. It is a very powerful bond between the two. A Moon and Sun synastry is also a very good one. With
Mercury being the planet of communication, a Moon and Mercury synastry conjunction will show that they will be very communicative with each other. This can be very good but has the potential to become exhausting.
Jupiter is the planet of wisdom and when in conjunction by synastry with the Moon can create a relationship where the Jupiter person is a great guide and support to the Moon person. Moon and Venus give a relationship that is all about emotions and romance. Both the people involved feel like they are connected in a harmonious and loving way. Moon and Saturn are not as
romantic as the Moon and Venus but indicate a steady and committed relationship.
Challenging Emotions And Dominance Issues
When a person’s Mars is on the others’ Moon it indicates that the Moon person is very sensitive to the anger and passion of the Mars person. It can cause a very aggressive and conflict-filled relationship that will have a painful impact on the Moon person. It can create an increased sexual passion between the two but it will also be more hot and angry than romantic. When Saturn and the Moon overlap in synastry it can create a challenge. Saturn being discipline, the
Moon person can feel restricted by the Saturn person. The Moon person would perceive the Saturn person as cold and the relationship as a duty and burdensome. If they work it through it can lead to a good steadfast bond.
2. Balance Of Energy
It is very important that the energies of two people match. It is also important that the energy of one person does not drown out the energy of the other. The most energetic planet is Mars. Mars is the drive, energy and passion of a person. A strong Mars creates a person who is dominant, energetic and passionate. This is why Mars is given importance in relationship astrology. The position of Mars is studied to determine the ‘Mangal Dosha’ or ‘Kuja Dosha’ of a person. The
logic behind the study of this Dosha and the advice to match a person with Kuja Dosha with a person who has the same Dosha is to balance this energy. It is an attempt to match a passionate and energetic person with another who has the same high levels of energy.
However, one must also study the charts to see how the two Mars placements interact with each other and with other planets in synastry. A Mars-Venus overlap in synastry makes for a passionate and satisfying relationship.
The Dashas that the person is going through also indicates the energy of the time period that they are going through and the area of life that they are focussing on. Two parallel Dashas of planets that are of conflicting nature will cause issues.
3. Seventh House And Navamsa
With the seventh house and the Navamsa being the aspects of horoscopes that directly relate to the married life, they should be deeply and thoroughly studied to judge the merits of a match.
4. Life Span
When studying two charts for long term compatibility it is important that the astrologer compare the lifespan of the two individuals. It would be tragic to pair a person with a long lifespan with a shorter one. However, determining the life span is best attempted by a well-experienced astrologer.
5. Misfortunes In Life
A learned astrologer will compare both the charts and see how the two balance each other with regard to favourable and unfavourable times. This can be achieved by studying the Dasha periods of both as well as the planetary transits of the slow-moving planets. This is also the reason why a certain distance between the man and the woman’s Moon Rashis are recommended. This avoids them facing the prospect of both undergoing unfavourable Saturn
There are many yogas and planetary positions that indicate the possibility of misfortune or unfortunate events happening in the lifetime of the person. When two people with the same negative pattern are matched it adds to the possibility of this misfortune. Care should be taken to ensure that this does not happen to cause the negativity to resonate in both the horoscopes.
Some charts show a particular difficulty with progeny. Naturally, when it is matched with a chart that has extremely good combinations for having children, it will balance this out. So, ideally, the charts of both people should be studied and matched to see that there is a balance in this aspect. At least one horoscope showing that the children will be good and will take care of the
parents in their old age is essential.
7. Dasha Sandhi
The change of Dasha period or Dasha Sandhi is a psychological and emotionally difficult time that takes a lot of getting used to. Starting married life at this time is not recommended especially if there is a Dasha Sandhi within a year of the marriage. It is also advisable to see that there are no extremely unfavourable or conflicting Dasha-Antara Dashas in effect at the time of the marriage. There are also conflicting views on whether the matching of a couple who are running parallel Dashas of the same planets is good or not. In most cases, astrologers
advise against it unless the planets are in good dignity in the charts.
One should also study the Navamsa or D9 of both the potential partners for compatibility. It is good to have an excellent relationship between the Moon placements of the Navamsa of one horoscope with the Moon position in the other Rashi chart. The Navamsa also gives the finer details about the facets of married life of the person.
The Trishamsa or the D30 chart tells us a lot about misfortunes and the quality of married life.
10. Sexual Compatibility
The 12th house, its lord and aspects received are generally studied for any issues in the sex life of a person. It is essential to study this house for any potential issues when matching. The placements of Mars and Venus relative to each other in the synastry chart will also help understand the sexual chemistry of a couple. Mars and Venus in the same Rashi in synastry is desirable. There are also other combinations that could indicate positive matching or potential
problems. One should ensure that there is a good possibility for the couple to enjoy a good sex life after marriage.
11. Divorce Or Infidelity
An experienced astrologer can see the likelihood for multiple marriages as well as infidelity in a chart. Potential for longevity and happy marriage in the other chart can help negate ill effects.
The synastry study of planets that are over the moon will tell us about the effect that the other person could potentially have on the person’s emotional well being. In addition to this, we can also study the 4th house of a person to see if there will be family happiness. The second house should also be studied to see the condition of family happiness in a person’s chart.
13. Astha Koot Milan
The Ashta Koota Milan is the eight-point comparison of two charts for marriage compatibility. This way of matching has a maximum of 36 points that can be scored for compatibility. A score of 18 out of 36 is considered good enough. It is often confused and taken as the best way to match the horoscopes. It is a very general way of matching horoscopes but other factors as
listed above should also be considered.
The factors of Asthakoot Milan are:
1. Varna: This is meant to match the compatibility of the egos of the two people.
There are four Varnas and the boy’s Varna is preferred to be of a higher one than
the girls. A good match gets 1 point. Vashya: this is the factor that shows the
power and attraction between a couple. It can receive a score of a maximum of 2
2. Tara: This shows the level of friendship and health between the two people. It
gets a maximum of 3 points if there is a match.
3. Yoni: This is meant to match the sexual nature of the couple. The maximum
score is 4 points.
4. Graha Maitri: This is the relationship between the Rashi lords of the two people.
A friendship between the two lords is prefered. It has a maximum score is 5
5. Gana: this is a comparison of the nature of the two people. There are 3 types of
Ganas and a good match can score a maximum of 6 points.
6. Bhakoot: This is a comparison of the Rashi position of the Moon in both the
horoscopes. It can get a maximum score of 7 points.
7. Nadi: This is to do with the health and the genetics of the couple. A match will
score a maximum of 8 points.